Behind the Kisses
Kissing is one of my all-time favorite things. I know it is often a favorite of women, but for me it is especially sweet and can be all I need to make me absolutely hot and ready to pounce on my kissing partner. I like to kiss everywhere, and I do not mean in the bathroom or kitchen... I mean everywhere on a body. I am a worshiper. I decided that with such a passion for this pastime, it deserved a post of its own.
My first kiss, real kiss, happened when I was probably about 12 years old. It was spectacular, at least the experience of it, I doubt that I was very good at it at 12 years old, but the boy who kissed me was 14 and he had a much better idea of what he was doing. I became a lover of kisses immediately with that first one.
A first kiss is very important, but not the deciding moment that many people make it out to be. The first time you kiss someone, it is most often awkward because you have never done it before and so are getting a feel for how that person 'dances' with their lips. If someone is a really terrible kisser, well its not too big a deal if they are at all willing to experiment. If I kiss someone who is not good, I will actually ask them to let me kiss them the way I like to kiss and see where it goes from there. I do remember the worst kisser my lips ever met. I was about 17 and we really liked each other, but even after trying to show him how to kiss me, he could not bring himself to change it seems... too bad, that was the end of that.
The best kisses I ever had would have to be... hmmmm, that's actually harder to say then I would have thought as I have had some truly sweet kisses in my life. It would be easier maybe to describe a great kiss, from my perspective.
There are few necessary elements to a great kiss, as I see it. First, soft lips are very sexy. Kissing with tight lips is not so much fun, you need to relax that mouth and kiss gently to begin with. Next, a slightly open mouth, when the kiss is beginning to get deeper, is very desirable, followed by a gentle but firm bite on the lower lip. After this point enters the tongue. This is a tricky part of kissing, this is where the kiss becomes its own dance and the kissers are the dancers. If you are dancing with someone, do you just drag them around and over-power them? Probably not, at least not if you are a good dancer. A good dancer, like a good kisser, can feel the movements of their partner and respond. This is so important when it comes to good kisses. When the tongue becomes involved, it is really easy to overpower your partner by thrusting it into their mouth. I can't imagine that too many people actually like that kind of kissing, its messy and hard to breath and should be saved for the deepest moment of passion, like when you are both mostly naked and groping to remove unwanted clothing... then a tongue thrust almost anywhere is appropriate. But aside from that, a tongue should be a tease. It should only enter your partners mouth invited and always leave them wanting more by just playing with the tip against their tongue, and it is really sexy accompanied by gentle lip biting. By this point in the kissing, the boundaries have fallen and the passion is swelling and turning back becomes extremely difficult. By this point you should be breathing heavy and can hardly keep your thoughts out of your kissing partners pants.
I could go on with that, but then it wouldn't be a kissing post...
I have had the chance to kiss my acting partner quite a few times by this point in our practicing, and I have to admit, he is a damned good kisser, or more specifically, our lips dance together beautifully. We are being professional, so we keep the tongue out of it and it doesn't go on for too long, but I'll tell ya, I have definitely had the urge to rip his damned clothes off a few times. Luckily I can act...
Now go on a get to it!
My first kiss, real kiss, happened when I was probably about 12 years old. It was spectacular, at least the experience of it, I doubt that I was very good at it at 12 years old, but the boy who kissed me was 14 and he had a much better idea of what he was doing. I became a lover of kisses immediately with that first one.
A first kiss is very important, but not the deciding moment that many people make it out to be. The first time you kiss someone, it is most often awkward because you have never done it before and so are getting a feel for how that person 'dances' with their lips. If someone is a really terrible kisser, well its not too big a deal if they are at all willing to experiment. If I kiss someone who is not good, I will actually ask them to let me kiss them the way I like to kiss and see where it goes from there. I do remember the worst kisser my lips ever met. I was about 17 and we really liked each other, but even after trying to show him how to kiss me, he could not bring himself to change it seems... too bad, that was the end of that.
The best kisses I ever had would have to be... hmmmm, that's actually harder to say then I would have thought as I have had some truly sweet kisses in my life. It would be easier maybe to describe a great kiss, from my perspective.
There are few necessary elements to a great kiss, as I see it. First, soft lips are very sexy. Kissing with tight lips is not so much fun, you need to relax that mouth and kiss gently to begin with. Next, a slightly open mouth, when the kiss is beginning to get deeper, is very desirable, followed by a gentle but firm bite on the lower lip. After this point enters the tongue. This is a tricky part of kissing, this is where the kiss becomes its own dance and the kissers are the dancers. If you are dancing with someone, do you just drag them around and over-power them? Probably not, at least not if you are a good dancer. A good dancer, like a good kisser, can feel the movements of their partner and respond. This is so important when it comes to good kisses. When the tongue becomes involved, it is really easy to overpower your partner by thrusting it into their mouth. I can't imagine that too many people actually like that kind of kissing, its messy and hard to breath and should be saved for the deepest moment of passion, like when you are both mostly naked and groping to remove unwanted clothing... then a tongue thrust almost anywhere is appropriate. But aside from that, a tongue should be a tease. It should only enter your partners mouth invited and always leave them wanting more by just playing with the tip against their tongue, and it is really sexy accompanied by gentle lip biting. By this point in the kissing, the boundaries have fallen and the passion is swelling and turning back becomes extremely difficult. By this point you should be breathing heavy and can hardly keep your thoughts out of your kissing partners pants.
I could go on with that, but then it wouldn't be a kissing post...
I have had the chance to kiss my acting partner quite a few times by this point in our practicing, and I have to admit, he is a damned good kisser, or more specifically, our lips dance together beautifully. We are being professional, so we keep the tongue out of it and it doesn't go on for too long, but I'll tell ya, I have definitely had the urge to rip his damned clothes off a few times. Luckily I can act...
Now go on a get to it!
2 Comments:
At 11:04 AM, The Zombieslayer said…
Wow. That was soooo sexy reading.
Kissing is underrated. Sometimes, I'd rather have a long make-out session than sex. Nothing against sex, but some of my most romantic experiences with women were kissing, and not sex.
The scary thing was up until our Caribbean cruise in '03, the most romantic moment I had in my life was not with my wife and it bothered me.
It was many years ago, and a girl I had a thing for for over two years and I ran into each other at a wonderful New Years party in downtown Houston at the Goth club. I remember desperately looking for her as the U2 song "New Years Day" played right when the New Years bell rang.
When I saw her, it was just a kiss, but the most romantic kiss I've ever had.
She looked so gorgeous that night, completely gothed out, but finally with her natural color hair which was platinum blonde. I don't know why she kept dyeing it different colors, for it was a beautiful color and looked right on her.
Back to kissing, I was lucky. I had female friends when I was younger that we practiced kissing with. It was nothing sexual. We practiced on each other until we both got it right.
My very first kiss was when I was 14. I reached puberty late, actually later on that year. We were playing truth or dare and I was uncomfortable with it. I didn't like girls at all until I reached puberty. I was more into football and heavy metal music. Girls were scary.
Ironically, that girl turned out later on to be the most popular girl in the school in the refinery town I grew up in. She was my buddy's little sister though, so it was awkward for me. I guess I was an idiot. :(
At 7:37 PM, clothosfate said…
I'm glad you enjoyed the post, I guess thats a perfect example of how I love to use words to evoke image and emotion. When I know I have successfully placed a picture and feeling in someones mind, it thrills me completly.
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